CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED?
Ladies Home Journal On-Line
INTRODUCTION
DR. EVELYN MOSCHETTA:
We meet many women like Lydia Cromwell. They feel that, over the years, they've been kept under their husband’s thumb. They feel belittled, criticized, put down and generally unloved. The problem is what the women are doing with these feelings. For years, they’ve been told to speak up and assert themselves, and finally they're getting that message. But what they’re doing with that message is what’s really important.
DR. PAUL MOSCHETTA:
Women breaking out of long-held traditional roles at home, where they have played a subservient position, are also running into problems when they go into the workplace, where they might get more equal treatment from men. Often, when they return home, they’re so fearful of slipping back into that subservient position that they don’t know how to gauge the difference between being assertive and being aggressive. They become so fearful of regressing into subservience that they wind up becoming more aggressive instead of healthily assertive, and their husbands rebel.
DR. EVELYN MOSCHETTA:
This is what happened to Lydia. She started to become witchy, and would scream and attack, all in the hope of getting herself heard and making sure her husband wouldn't put her down again. However, by yelling and screaming and being mean, she lost the point she was trying to make.
Richard's Turn: Part One
Richard's Turn: Part Two
Richard's Turn: Part Three
